On Little Brothers

Three of Ben’s friends who we hang out with are expecting little brothers (via the traditional way), so there has been a lot of talk about tummies and baby brothers.

This is how Ben is processing it.

Ben on pregnancy: “I have a big belly. I have a baby in my tummy like S’s mom. Mommy, where is your big belly? You have an elephant in your tummy.”

Ben on little brothers: “Mommy, where is my little brother? What’s he doing? Is he eating? Is he sleeping?”

I am pretty sure that he doesn’t grasp either concept, but it sure is cute to listen to him.

Sometimes we mention that one day he will have a little brother, too. It is insane to think that if timelines were similar to our last adoption, we would probably already have been matched with a baby or even have little brother home already. That is just CRAZY! There is no way any of us would be ready for that right now. I am so grateful that our first adoption went so fast, and I am grateful that this wait is sooooo much easier than last time. We’ve been in process for almost 14 months. These 14 months feel like a week did during the process for Ben.

If quoted timelines hold true (I know, what a joke), our baby has either already been born very recently, or will be born very soon. We are “expecting” a referral next June and currently the babies are about a year old at referral.

I have a whole other post planned about how I am already panicking about having two kids.


Playing Catch Up

I miss blogging, I really do. I am hoping this is my comeback post and that I will actually follow through with my grand plans to once again chronicle the life of Ben on a more regular basis. I have a lot of catching up to do (remember the Christmas post? Ooops, I guess there wasn’t one).

Ben’s World

Has it really been 3 months since I blogged? Yikes….

Since my memory is non-existant, that means that anything that happened these past few months has already been forgotten.

This is what is happening in Ben’s world right now:

  • His language has taken off. In a few months his sentences have gotten longer and his vocabulary has expanded. He can now even be understood by some of my friends. He loves to talk at home, but he does not like it when daddy or I speak. One of his favorite things to say is “Mommy, you talk to much. Stop talking.” or “Daddy, don’t talk to mommy.” For a while, he said “I like this” to everything he did or ate, but recently it’s been a lot of “Ben no like this”. He also likes to affirm us that “It’s okay” or “That’s fine” with his signature shoulder shrug, especially when he is doing things that really are not okay or fine for him to do. Sometimes he will ask “it’s okay if we do that?”, but he does not like to be told “no”. He has yet to say the word “little”. Instead small things are called “tiny”.
  • He is still usually shy around strangers, but really loves all of his friends’ moms and also really seems to like old people. The other day we were at a playground and he went up to a couple of grandpas asking their names and asking “what you doing here?”
  • The boy likes to eat, still. As soon as there is a mention of food, one of two things happens. Either he starts begging “Okay if we eat at restau-restau?” OR “I need bigger chair” (follwed by him dragging a chair over to the kitchen counter – this usually ends in the kitchen being covered in flour and water). He loves to eat out. LOVES it. Every day I get asked at least once if we can go to a restaurant. When we’re out he’ll say “We don’t go home now, we go to restau-restau.Okay?”
  • Let’s talk about sleep. Oy vey. Sooooooo, we had worked SO HARD to get Ben to sleep in his crib and we were so proud that he went to bed at 8 every night and basically slept through the night until 5. Then, one day a few weeks ago, Ben was really sick, and I felt very uncomfortable with not having him close by. So I brought him to our bed. A few nights later, he went back into the crib, but after two nights he decided that he was not having it any more and wanted back in the bed. Around 6 every night he started whining that he wanted to be in “mommy daddy big bed”. And guess where he still is….
  • Along the same lines… Guess who gave up napping a few weeks ago? Me. Sigh. I thought Ben was just being fussy when he refused to go to sleep after lunch, and for a while I sort of forced him to nap by strapping him on my back and walking around the house. Then I realized that he wouldn’t fall asleep at night if he slept during the day and I faced the terrifying reality that he no longer needs naps. Let me tell you, the days are l.o.n.g.
  • Ben will still not play with toys. He does however love to play priest. He wears a tiny blanket wrapped around his shoulders, sits down and commands us to sing “Allelujah” to be followed by Amen. Then he announces that he is walking out now and proceeds to walk to the stairs, where he waits for us to come shake his hand. The highlight of his week is Sunday after Mass when he gets to shake the priests hand. He jumps up and screams “Time to shake priest hand now!”
  • We’ve done a few mommy and me classes, such as gymnastics, soccer, and most recently Mandarin lessons at a friend’s house. He will not really participate in any of the classes but would rather just sit or stand at the sidelines, however, as soon as we get home, he will re-enact anything that happened at class. He likes to pretend to be the teacher (I am teacher now. I am coach now. I am Miss Loretta). I am shocked at how good his memory is. I wish mine was a fraction of his.
  • He is fascinated by names. He asks what everyone’s name is, which can become kind of exhausting. He has started calling hubby by his first name when he is not listening, and he calls me either Sandra or Hon whenever I don’t respond to mommy.
  • He also likes to pretend play “work”. Either he works at a grocery store, or he works in mommy’s company’s tech department. He’ll say “I work here now” and will also shush us and say “shhhh. I am working now”. Due to some unfortunate circumstances Ben has met quite a few of my tech folks, and at home he will play “John” or “Quintin” and will try to repair my computer, only to end each play session with “Computer broken. That’s okay, I give you a new one.” He has also played plumber. “Mommy broke kitchen. I am plumber. I fix it. I am different plumber. Maybe I fix it.”
  • For a while he always wanted “a different else”. No matter what was offered, he insisted on “I want different else.” Kids are exhausting.
  • Having him watch Elf during Christmas time still haunts me. He has that movie memorized and will still randomly bring things up that happened in the movie. As of late he has been clutching his cup with both hands saying “I loooove syrup.”

Getting ready for Christmas

A few weeks into November, I got out the movie Elf. And it has been a lifesaver. Sure, Ben learned to start tickle fights, a snow ball fight without snowballs, says Francisco over and over, asks for syrup with his food, and has started to quote lines from the movie. But it has taught him to sing “Santa Claus is coming to town”, dance like Buddy in the mailroom, and it has acted as my babysitter. I also think that I can thank the movie for the fact that Ben LOVES Santa. He is obsessed with the man.

We’ve been able to do many Christmas activities this year and it is so fun that he sort of gets it this year.

So far we went to the local treelighting ceremony and singalong, watched Elf, looked at Santa at the mall, watched Elf, baked Christmas cookies that didn’t turn out, watched Elf, looked at Santa at the mall, made an advent wreath, watched Elf, had a little St. Nicholas themed gettogether with our friends, watched Elf, got boots filled by St. Nicholas, and sat with Santa at the mall.

We’re off to a great start!

Catching up

I am so behing in blogging, it’s not even funny.

I’ve missed documenting so many of those little things that happen every day and I’ve forgotten most of them, but I need to record at least some of what’s been going on.

Ben is now talking in sentences that other people can understand (some of the time). For a while, one of his favorites was to say “me liking this” and “me no liking this”, but now he has graduated to saying ” I like this” and “I no like this”. Makes me a little sad. My baby is growing up.

Some of the funny things he’s said include:

“Mommy hair like Pappo”. We have a white cat. His name is Casper. Ben calls him Pappo. There you go.

“I hope nobody takes my food” upon getting up from the dinner table to run around the kitchen for a while

“Daddy old man” I love this one.

“Mommy lets me do this” (after being told by daddy that he is not allowed to do something)

“No touch, only look” (uh-huh)

“No,  I do it”

“Ben have it chocolate now”

“Mommy, time out” trying to send me to sit on the stairs instead of him.

And, the highlight of last weekend “I have it poopy” in the middle of mass.

He was always pretty good with the cats, but lately he has started chasing them around the house and yelling at them. Some days Casper can count his lucky stars that he is deaf.



He’s also developed a little ritual for when daddy leaves to go to work, which includes a hug, a kiss, and a handshake.

Ben loves to play tent in the bed, ride his tricylce (he still won’t peddle),



For weeks Ben has been excited about Halloween. I don’t really think he knew what it was, but he kept on mentioning Halloween and that he would be a dragon “Me draaaagoooon”. I also don’t think he knew what a dragon was, but when I have him a choice of dressing up as a cow, a dragon, or a pirate, he chose a dragon. Of course he also had no clue what a pirate was, instead he thought I was talking about an airplane pilot.

We started the day off with a visit to our favorite children’s musician/band. The kid is OBSESSED. To his dismay, the drummer wasn’t there and he kept on asking and asking about him until he realized that he would have to make do with the guitar player/singer.

Then in the afternoon we went to a birthday party and rushed home just in time for our awesome neighborhood parade.

Ben and his neighborhood friends. The adoration is mutual. 

After the parade there were hot dogs to be eaten and Ben also enjoyed petting the live dogs that came out to the parade. And then it was time for trick or treating. We didn’t take him last year, so this year was the first time he went from door to door. We had been practicing saying “trick or treat” for weeks and he was really good about saying it. Ben didn’t really realize that he was getting candy, but he really enjoyed going house to house and getting something in his basket. He kept on saying “next house, next house”.

All in all Ben really enjoyed the day, and I am finally starting to like Halloween too. Oh, and my brilliant plan to only buy candy I don’t like kind of backfired. Now I am stuck with all of this Hershey’s chocolate I won’t eat.

Christmas Cards – Done!

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